Where’s a fathers right to choose?

Father’s Day is celebrated to honor the amazing dads in our lives. Most dads are known for their funny stories or perhaps their good advice. But behind all that is someone who cherishes their children and knows just the right balance between fun and seriousness.

Fatherless children are less likely to succeed

Many men who were suppose to be fathers have had that taken from them through abortion. The role of fatherhood is often undervalued yet it is so important for a child’s confidence and mental well being. Yes, there are lots of strong single mothers but an active father who is a positive influence increases the likelihood of their child’s success in life.

Not all fathers see abortion as a solution

Fathering is often put down and in cases of unplanned pregnancies if the father is wanting to parent his opinion is not as important as the mother’s. It is often perceived that in cases of unwanted pregnancies it is usually the father of the child that coerces the mother into an abortion or maybe he doesn’t oppose her having one. Although this does happen, it is not always the case.

Gloria Steinem was once quoted saying “If men had abortions it would be a sacrament.” This statement is incredibly unfair. Men are not able to become pregnant or have abortions so it easy for one to make such a claim without anyone being able to effectively prove it wrong because it cannot be tested. The reality is that fathers have no right to chose life or death for their babies. If a father wants to chose life he is practically powerless.

Helping fathers during unplanned pregnancies

Options United has a crisis line to help mothers choose life for their babies. The majority of the calls are from women facing an unplanned pregnancy but there are many fathers who call in too. Some are wanting to know where and how their partner can get an abortion. Then there are some that are confused on how to handle fatherhood and wanting to know their options. Lastly, there are fathers who call in because the mother of their child chose abortion and they are experiencing post-abortive regret. At Options United, we’re able to help all of these callers by talking to them or guiding them to the right resources.

Knowledge for successful parenting

Not all great fathers start out that way and that’s okay. Most of the pregnancy clinics or centers we partner with have parenting classes available. For fathers, facing an unplanned pregnancy parenting classes can help speed up their knowledge on how to be a present parent. Some situations may seem hopeless at times but we help them see the hope and overcome their doubts.

Reclaiming Motherhood

There’s an almost constant attack on motherhood from abortion providers. Abortion directly opposes motherhood so it’s no surprise it’s portrayed as a negative.

Celebrating life over death

Almost five years ago, the shout your abortion campaign was created as a way to normalize abortion and showcase it as empowering. Many mothers were confused as to how the loss of your child would be empowering or even celebrated?

Statements such as “no one should be forced to have a child against their will” are created to further the narrative that motherhood is a bad experience and you have no other choice but to bury the problem.

Planned Parenthood in particular has been known to use unverified statistics provided from their own research efforts as a way of twisting words and numbers to fulfill their mission of abortion. The coronavirus pandemic has further exasperated attacks on motherhood. With so many facing new fears and economic hardship it is easy to play on those emotions. Women are being told they are incapable and there’s nowhere to find help. This is simply untrue .

There is help for those in need

There are nonprofits in every state dedicated to helping and supporting women. Here at Options United we connect women with the resources they need to support themselves throughout pregnancy. We empower them to be the capable mothers they are able to become.

There are few mothers that are truly incapable of caring for their unborn child. But they have options! Options United also refers to adoption agencies. More couples than there are children available are waiting to become parents to a child that is very much wanted. If she’s not able to parent herself then how wonderful is it that she has the ability to give that precious gift to another?

How you can help

What can you do to help stop the attacks on motherhood? If you know a mother facing an unplanned pregnancy you can give her the Options United helpline. You can donate here. You can also continue to pray for the precious lives of the unborn.

We are in this together! Your prayers and donations are what helps us continue to save lives. We will continue to celebrate mothers and motherhood every day.

Alert: Vaccine for Corona Virus

Taken from http://www.usccb.org/about/pro-life-activities/upload/Letter-to-FDA-urging-ethical-COVID-vaccines.pdf

Friday, April 17, 2020
The Honorable Stephen M. Hahn, M.D. Commissioner U.S. Food and Drug Administration 10903 New Hampshire Avenue Silver Spring, MD 20993-0002

Dear Commissioner Hahn,

As our nation works to defend itself from the deadly Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19), we write to express our gratitude to you and the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for all of its efforts to combat the virus and to ask for your help to ensure that Americans will have access to vaccines that are free from any connection to abortion.

To be clear, we strongly support efforts to develop an effective, safe, and widely available vaccine as quickly as possible. However, we also strongly urge our federal government to ensure that fundamental moral principles are followed in the development of such vaccines, most importantly, the principle that human life is sacred and should never be exploited.

We are aware that, among the dozens of vaccines currently in development, some are being produced using old cell lines that were created from the cells of aborted babies. For example, Janssen Pharmaceuticals, Inc. has a substantial contract from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) and is working on a vaccine that is being produced using one of these ethically problematic cell lines. Thankfully, other vaccines such as those being developed by Sanofi Pasteur, Inovio, and the John Paul II Medical Research Institute utilize cell lines not connected to unethical procedures and methods.

It is critically important that Americans have access to a vaccine that is produced ethically: no American should be forced to choose between being vaccinated against this potentially deadly virus and violating his or her conscience. Fortunately, there is no need to use ethically problematic cell lines to produce a COVID vaccine, or any vaccine, as other cell lines or processes that do not involve cells from abortions are available and are regularly being used to produce other vaccines. Commissioner Hahn, we urgently and respectfully implore you to not only ensure that Americans will have access to a COVID vaccine that is free of ethical concerns, but to encourage and incentivize pharmaceutical companies to use only ethical cell lines or processes for producing vaccines.


Most Reverend Joseph F. Naumann Archbishop of Kansas City, KS Chairman, USCCB Committee on Pro-Life Activities

Most Reverend Kevin C. Rhoades Bishop of Fort Wayne-South Bend Chairman, USCCB Committee on Doctrine
Most Reverend John F. Doerfler Bishop of Marquette Chairman, USCCB Subcommittee on Healthcare Issues

Most Reverend Paul S. Coakley Archbishop of Oklahoma City Chairman, USCCB Committee on Domestic Justice and Human Development

Joseph Meaney, Ph.D. President National Catholic Bioethics Center

Michael Parker, MD President Catholic Medical Association

Jeffrey Barrows, DO, MA, Senior VP Bioethics and Public Policy Christian Medical & Dental Associations

Donna J. Harrison MD Executive Director American Association of Pro-Life Obstetricians and Gynecologists

Michelle Cretella, MD Executive Director American College of Pediatricians

Marianne Linane, RN, MA, Director National Association of Pro-Life Nurses

Ellen Gianoli, BSN, PHN, MA, RN President National Association of Catholic Nurses, U.S.A.

Alan Moy MD Founder and Scientific Director John Paul II Medical Research Institute CEO of Cellular Engineering Technologies

Russell Moore President Southern Baptist Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission

Debi Vinnedge President and Executive Director Children of God for Life

Jeanne Mancini President March for Life Education & Defense Fund

Tom Brejcha President and Chief Counsel Thomas More Society

Travis S. Weber, J.D., LL.M. Vice President for Policy and Government Affairs Family Research Council

Penny Young Nance CEO and President Concerned Women for America LAC

Michael P. Farris President, CEO and General Counsel Alliance Defending Freedom

Michael Vacca, J.D. Christ Medicus Foundation

Bradley L. Hahn, J.D. CEO Solidarity HealthShare

Jonathan Imbody Director Freedom2Care

Kristan Hawkins President Students for Life of America

Lila Rose President & Founder Live Action

CC: President Donald J. Trump
Vice President Mike Pence
Alex M. Azar II, Secretary of Health and Human Services

Crises and Pro-life Instinct: Coronavirus

The most recent variety of the coronavirus, Covid-19 or the Wuhan virus or China flu etc. has swept us up into an international health emergency.

Though the facts seem to be as much about hype, panic (a run on toilet paper?) and politics (demagoguing) as it is about health, one thing for certain, it has focused us all on our most common denominator: our fragile humanity.

As the “United States of Entertainment”, perhaps more than any other nation, Americans are willing to put significant effort into attaining entertainment. So, for instance, when your favorite NBA team has its game interrupted by a health emergency, you’d think folks would riot. Yet, refreshingly, everyone complies in a thoughtful if not sarcastic way.

The owner of the Dallas Mavericks was quoted as saying “You know what, it’s really not about basketball or money…you think about your family… Because now, it’s much more personal.”  

When crisis strikes and our family is at risk, what really matters is painfully evident.

A Cardinal was quoted as saying “something changed: all of the sudden, we started to care for every life. … We have become lovers of life. …since the virus began spreading in Italy, no one is having discussions about the right a person with Down Syndrome has to live or if it is up to the expectant mother to choose to abort it. Neither are Italians talking about euthanizing the elderly, and there are no ‘equality’ marches that are really against equality and against freedom. People don’t talk about abortion, or about euthanasia, because everyone is talking for life,” he said. “We are looking for vaccines, we are taking precautions to guarantee that we can save lives.”

The pro-life movement has always been about respect for all life; it has always stated that no inconvenience is too great to nurture life – whether in the womb or in the frailty of sickness and age. All life matters because it is our most common and “humanizing” bond that will guide us through tough times.

When a member of this humanity is at risk, the pro-life movement speaks.

It is in times like this that we realize that we are all pro-life.

Answered: The Secret to Pro-life Outreach

Ten years of hard, determined and focused pro-life effort has given us insight as to what works and what doesn’t.

Success in pro-life terms is defined in different ways; funding cuts to abortion providers, education, lobbying, activism, social media outreach etc.  All are good and needed to battle the dominant culture that drives disrespect toward human life.

But what if someone wanted to know how they individually could make a real difference?  What is the shortcut, the hack or the secret to bypass the confusion and make an impact personally?

Here is the secret answered: define your terms and give.

Define your terms. 

“Pro-life” ultimately means the personal choice one makes to either parent or place for adoption instead of an abortion.  It is a choice of life over termination.  The loss of innocent life is the ultimate failure.  Therefore, it follows that the saving of an innocent life is the ultimate measure of success in the pro-life movement.   


Give time, funds and importantly prayer.  Giving of your time and treasure to the organizations that directly serve women and families is the most effective way for you to take part in the pro-life movement.  It puts you on the frontlines and makes your contribution immediately felt in the lives of those living in your neighborhood where you live. 

Fifty dollars and a heartfelt prayer is absolutely the hack of all hacks to resolve the riddle of a consumer society inconvenienced by an ill-timed pregnancy.  A sacrifice that is financial, personal and spiritual cuts through the clutter and will strengthen hearts to embrace life…  We know because we have seen it work thousands of times!

To paraphrase a past president, JFK, “ask not what your pro-life movement can do for you; rather, ask what you can do for the pro-life movement“.  The secret to pro-life success is that you first define your terms and then you get involved with the nearest organization that serves women and families directly.

Options United was founded to directly assist these original warriors in the pro-life movement – the pregnancy centers.  It is our belief that by bolstering outreach to women as well as the pregnancy centers that serve them, we can encourage thousands to choose life. 

This has turned out to be true – we have under our belts 10 years assisting thousands with a decision for life: adoption or parenting!

We believe that more choices for life will eventually turn our country pro-life.  We believe personal, spiritual and sacrificial participation is more powerful than the materialism that surrounds this issue. 

Stay tuned for more news on new developments on this topic in the coming months.